Restoring Lost Love

by Jam Silvious

I'd like to ask a very personal question. Do you love your husband? Do you love your wife?

You may think that how you feel about your spouse is none of my business. But in view of the horrifying statistics that one out of every two marriages will end in divorce, I think the question is relevant.

Love is where a marriage begins. It is what makes the whole event seem like a good idea. Sometimes, somewhere along the way, love gets lost in the shuffle and many discouraged, disillusioned couples call it quits as a way out of their troubles.

Leaving a first love is not a new problem. In fact, it's one that Jesus Himself addresses in Revelation 2:3-5 in speaking to the church at Ephesus: "You have persevered and have endured hardships for my name, and have not grown weary. Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken your first love. Remember the height from which you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first"

Here is a perfect formula for anyone who has fallen out of love with a husband or wife. The idea was shared by Dr. Richard Meier of the Minirth-Meier Clinic.

1. Remember the height from which you have fallen. Wedding pictures or memories you have tucked away are a reminder of the early days. The intensity of passion can't be sustained, but the sweet memories can soften your heart toward your mate. Simply recall what it was about your husband or wife that drew you to begin with. What is the very best memory you have of time spent with that person? Remember it, rehearse it, relish itand while you're at it, ask God to melt your cold heart.

2. Repent. This simple word means a change of mind supported by a change of direction. If you find your love cooling, you can choose to change your mind and turn around This is a conscious, rational decision that may or may not be accompanied by emotion. But there is no option for repentance in this matter. God says so!

3. Do the things you did at first. Jesus encouraged the Christians at Ephesus to put their remembrance and repentance to work and do something-something that would bring back the early days. Only you will know what that "something" is-all the sweet talk and actions that set your courtship apart from every other.

Jesus knew that the church at Ephesus had a good heart toward Him and would return to their first love if they just knew howand He knows the same about you. Remember, repent and do the things you used to do. This may be the most important sermon you ever read. Your marriage is worth it!

From The 5-Minute Devotional

©Zondervan 1991

<![if !supportEmptyParas]> <![endif]>

<![if !supportEmptyParas]> <![endif]>

<![if !supportEmptyParas]> <![endif]>

<![if !supportEmptyParas]> <![endif]>

<![if !supportEmptyParas]> <![endif]>

<![if !supportEmptyParas]> <![endif]>

<![if !supportEmptyParas]> <![endif]>

2011 Disciple 155x50 2011 AMG 155x50
Disciple Banner Ad